Sounds exhausting even reading that back to myself but we do learn as parents to juggle things pretty well.
But I think there are certain things that are always going to be classed as parenting struggles and so here are 5 that I think we can all relate to.
1. The Constant Tidying Up
It really does feel never ending! I don't think for me it helps that Lily has so many toys, but that is my own fault for reviewing so many toys for you to read about. I find that as I tidy one room (her play room perhaps), then she will be trashing the front room. If I am tidying her bedroom, she will have taken toys from her bedroom into my bedroom and then thats a mess instead. It sometimes feels like a never ending pointless activity. There are also times that I really do need to get on with work and lily decides she will happily play, which is great, work done.. ahh I can relax... turn around and OMG there are toys EVERYWHERE. No relax time for me. I am trying to teach Lily that when she gets one toy out she needs to put another away first but she is only 3 and so that goes in one ear and out the other. I generally find that as she does start to tidy it, she suddenly decides she doesn't want to stop playing with it after all and she would pour the entire box of Sticklebricks that we have just tidied away all back out on the floor. An expression I find I use a lot in this situation is "Why do I bother".
This may not be a struggle for all parents but I do find Lily's constant need for attention to be tricky. I have been invited to a fitness group where I could take Lily with me but I feel that I probably with have to do the exercises with her attached to my leg making it extra hard. Lily seems to act up on needing attention when I am busy doing something. For example I have a blog post to write, I am trying to clean up, do the washing. These are all times that Lily decides she needs a cuddle, picking up, and suddenly a task that she can normally do is impossible and she needs help. But if I simply sit on my bum on a chair in the living room doing nothing. (Which doesn't happen often) then she will quite happily sit on the floor and play all by herself contently.
She has also started to get very impatient. If she asks me to do something for her, If I don't do it literally the second she has asked me and I mean second, then she asks again, and again. Usually not even giving me time to even stand up.
Im hoping that this isn't just a Lily thing and something else other parents can relate too?
3. Constantly Asking Questions
I do love that kids are inquisitive and Lily is definitely no different to any other child when it comes to want to know about everything. I am perfectly happy to answer her questions and love to help her learn about the world. But sometimes your just like "really.... your asking me that?" I have lately been answering my questions with a little sarcastic joke. For example, this morning. I walk into the bathroom, Lily can see where I am going, she is following me there as always. Lily - "Where are you going mummy" Me - "To the moon" Lily - "No your not, your going to the bathroom" Me - "then why ask!?!" She usually finds it quite funny when I joke with her like that and I do mostly answer questions with a real answer, but parents will all understand that the constant questions just get too much.
Then theres the questions you just can't answer. "Mummy, why is the moon out, its daytime??" I suddenly am needed to turn to google for the answer which is generally one that Lily would never understand so I just tell her that he has come to visit the sun. Then there is the worst..the worst question that just haunts parents. "WHY?", when no matter what answer you give them it is followed by a "WHY?" I actually wrote a post on this quite a while ago and I had hoped Lily would have grown out this phase but unfortunately not. I do know from talking to many parents that this one is a common one to feel like pulling your hair out a little.
Zzzzzzzzz. The first thing I will say about this one is that you think your tired. You have children, now you know the meaning of tired. You may be lucky and have a child who is a brilliant sleeper. But I still expect the juggling of a million things parents have to do, will make you tired. Especially when you wave goodbye to your child's nap time.
Lily has never been a brilliant sleeper. She didn't sleep through until she was about 2 years old and then still didn't sleep through every night. I think going over 2 years of getting up every night did nearly kill me. But I am alive and so apparently it doesn't actually kill you. Lily does still wake me up though. Last night was at least 3 times, and now she is waking me for the most ridiculous of reasons. Reason 1, she says she couldn't pull her blankets back on top of her. Reason 2, she had dropped her teddy on the floor. Reason 3, she had a bogie on her finger! It is so frustrating that I am feeling so tired for those reasons above. Again another phase I hope she grows out of and soon she won't wake at all, or at least gets herself back to sleep when she does.
5. Never getting to eat a meal to yourself
Well this one isn't to much of a biggie, but it can be fair annoying when she has decided she doesn't want to eat her own dinner and suddenly wants yours. Especially when you offered her what you were having for yourself in the first place but she chose fish fingers instead. I am generally pretty hungry and pretty much ALWAYS have to share my dinner/lunch. I always say, you know its love when you give away your last roast potato!
But there are times I do have to tell her that she has her dinner and I have mine or else she would happily steal all my food.
So there are 5 things that I think as parents we can all relate to, and know, that we are not alone and that its also not a bad thing to feel like your struggling. One thing as a blogger I never want to portray is that i'm perfect and that my life is perfect. That is no where near true and although I can write tips for you, my readers. Know that I can also struggle with the every day problems that other parents also face.
Well... after taking 2 hours to write all that. I guess I better clean up!
I would love to know which of the above you struggle with?
Are there other things you struggle with?