So the other day a friend came over to visit, which was lovely because I don't see many friends since having Lily. I think mostly the reason for that is because I used to go and visit them, attend the fashion shows, the events and so there would always be opportunities to be seeing them. But having a baby totally changes that and all of a sudden your invited to these events and you can't go.
Its funny as I really used to enjoy going to these events but part of me really doesn't mind that I cant go. I have to stay at home with the baby and that's fine. Its part of being a mummy and I totally chose this life and I'm happy with it.
That being said, now Lily is 16 months old, I am starting to crave the odd night out. I don't mean a night out partying or a night getting drunk. Simple watching a fashion show or going to the cinema or dinner with a friend would be enough.
I think over the last year I can count my times out on one hand. Ive had the odd meal with my partner (where once we had to rush back because the baby sitter was getting a little panicky at my daughters loud cries) and for my birthday in January we went to the cinema which was the most exciting thing ever!!!!
Now what I wanted to tell you all about today was about what happened the other night. The other night I went out for dinner with my friend. We was going to go to Weatherspoons just to grab some pub grub. But then we noticed that there was a bar that sold Tapas and we decided we would treat our self.
It was such a good night out, and we got loads of shared dishes and chatted non stop.
My Friend isn't a mum yet and so It was amazing just to speak about things other than What stage Lily is at with this, and that... you know, the normal talk that you speak about when with other mums. It was great to just relax, not have to worry about Lily waking up, or about still having to tidy her toys, or having to cook dinner. Instead I could sit back and relax and enjoy myself.
The next morning I woke up, and eating out the night before and how much fun I had is all I could think about, and I find it crazy that I'm so excited and happy over such a simple thing like going for dinner with a friend.
I think one reason for that is because I haven't done it in so long. But I think there is also another reason. I've been thinking and as silly as it may sound. The last time I went out for a meal with this friend was literally just after I found out I was pregnant with Lily and I felt so happy at that meal. I think eating out with her reminded me of that day.
I think that its so important for mums to have these nights to ourself. Being a mum is great, and loads of fun and so rewarding. BUT it can be such a routine and you start to feel a little like your going mad when you start each day humming the tune of In the Night Garden because that's what you last watched the night before.
I think its something I will try and do a lot more now and if you a mum who hasn't been out for a while, I hope reading this makes you want to do it again.
When was the last time you went out?